Cool things around the web – May 19th, 2013

Hello dear friends,

How has your week been and what did you do most interesting? :) any cool things you might want to share with us?

I have a couple ;)

- FashionABLE scarves. Cotton scarves knitted by the hands of the Ethiopian women in the capital, Addis Ababa. This is a project created within a non-profit focused on:

  • transparency (you know who is responsible for making your scarf and how)
  • providing sustainable and honest work opportunities for vulnerable women (and men) that are justly remunerated (such a rarity nowadays when big brands and corporations are building their empires on very cheap labor)
  • on training so that more and more women can and will be employed

The price is not, what would most consider, cheap/affordable for a scarf but is all worth it!

For once, you will know more about what you buy than just “Made in India/Bangladesh/Mexico…”. Consider it your monthly charity: 30 dollars and you could help a mom send her child to school or provide food for her family. Buy just one scarf and you could do so much good!

And I know this from experience: my mom, back in Romania, has been working in a clothing factory that makes clothes for big, German and Austrian manufacturers, for over 30 years, whilst being paid less that a dime/button. Yes, a BUTTON, as in the button of a shirt/blouse. On average, she makes 600 RON (RON=Romanian Leu/currency) which is about 180 dollars/month. And that if she is lucky to have enough buttons to sew to make that much! (the style and design of the clothes they work on varies every month).

So I KNOW how important it is to be fairly paid for your work.

If you can and see fit, please help this non-profit by buying and/spreading the word!

Now, on a lighter note:

- Paris’ beautiful bridges

- Hollie McNish’s mathematics concerning immigrants. BRILLIANT!

- 11 unbelievably beautiful places

- The most common misconceptions about therapists

- How to have a real German breakfast

- On practicing being genuinely happy

- This is water. A speech on growing and becoming an adult that should be taught in schools!

- London. Great tour of the city’s important landmarks. From 1927. Amazingly created and preserved film!

Have lots of fun everyone,

Roxi

Inspirational Interview Series: Monica Hrinca – Photographer

Hello dear friends,

Monica is a young photographer born in Romania who at the moment is living in Dortmund, Germany, where she is working and studying to further her degree and consolidate her photographic skills. With a keen eye for details and beauty, her passion for photography started early on and developed naturally.

I met Monica for the very first time in 2010. She was one of the volunteers that I selected to create and conduct art workshops for the children at the “Tandarica” Foundation in Cluj-Napoca, Romania. I was very much impressed with her thoughtfulness, artistic skills and background, her hardworking ways and overall her sweet and insightful personality.

Here are some more things about her:

1. Hello Monica! Please tell us 5 things about yourself and what do you want to do when you grow up?

-  I am a very sociable and friendly person

-  I love children, being surrounded by them and working with them

-  I also love nature a lot too! I find it peaceful, relaxing and liberating

-  Obviously, I love everything regarding art, color and self-expression

-  I am inspired by anything that I see around me: the color of a flower, a detail on a girl’s blouse, a patterned dress, little objects and trinkets that most people usually don’t even notice

Monica-Hrinca.f001Artistic self-portrait, in black and white.

When I grow up (and it is also a personal goal right now), I would like to assist a fashion photographer and work together on fashion and artistic photos, but not commercial ones. Thus, I would like to become a better photographer myself by learning from the very best. I believe I can always challenge myself and grow to become better and better, and better.

monica taking photosMonica with her camera, taking photos.

2. You graduated from The University of Art and Design, in Cluj-Napoca, Romania, with a BA and MA in Visual Arts. You were also awarded with numerous prizes in photography starting with high school. How did you become interested in being a photographer and when did you first discover your passion?

The passion for photography started when I was in my 9th grade and studying at the Art High School in my hometown, Oradea, Romania. Our graphic design teacher suggested that we should all take a short photography class. I joined and started working with black and white photography, sepia tones and learning all the basics of manual photography.

Soon enough, I became fascinated with the entire process and thus I enrolled in the local Photoclub called “Lilly”. My very first camera I started working and learning with at the club was an old, Russian one called CMEHA/SMENA. It was a device with manual lens, with which I had to measure everything beforehand to make sure the photo will capture whatever I wanted it to capture.

You guys can check it out here: 

ap foto monicaSource: Google images

During that time, I expanded my knowledge, learning how to develop films and how to create different types of photos. A little bit later I joined a photography competition for young artists in Bucharest where I sent three of my photos. I was selected among the finalists and I also took the top prize for color photography. It was my very first prize in photography and it gave me a lot of courage and hope to pursue photography more seriously.

monica and some of her printsMonica in a working studios, showing a friend some of her drawings.

After that, I had the opportunity to talk to one of the professors at the University of Art and Design in Cluj-Napoca, Dorel Gaina,  who encouraged me further to come and visit the University and apply to its undergrad program which I ended up doing in the end. His influence and faith in me was huge because besides being encouraging, he also gave me lots of precious tips and suggestions on improving my techniques and overall, my photographic skills

3.  What was the very first camera that you owned?

My very first camera that I owned and worked with was a treasured gift from my parents, a Nikon F55 on film, that I still have :) With it, I took the very first photos that got me into the Arts and Design Uni to earn my BA degree in Photography and Media.

4. Your latest individual exhibition, “Memory, Witness, Metaphor and Magic” (“Memorie, Martor, Metafora si Magie” in Romanian) explores the passage of time, the present, past and future, reflected on the faces of some elderly, in a small Romanian village. How did you came about with the idea?

During University years, I started being very passionate about traditional photography, specifically about how people lived in the villages, most of them still very well preserved in Romania.

I am talking about a lifestyle that maintained its traditions, customs and beliefs pretty much the same as they were, let’s say, 50, 60 years ago, even though that in the cities, Romania has developed and modernized so much and so rapidly in the last decade.

expo OradeaMonica opening her exhibition, “Memory, witness, metaphor and magic”, in her hometown, Oradea, Romania. February, 2013.

expo doi cu prieteniiSurrounded by her friends and her professor at the opening of the same exhibition, but in Cluj-Napoca, in April 2010. Monica is wearing a green dress :)

expo 1Another photo from the same exhibition. Cluj-Napoca, Romania, April, 2010.

Therefore, there is a big discrepancy between the village and the city lifestyle that I wanted to understand and capture with my photos.

And even more so, I wanted to understand the people! How have they survived, how are they living now, what is helping them in their last years of their lives and how are they making sense of it all.

poze inramateHanging portraits with the villagers faces. Prints in photographic emulsion made by Monica for her exhibition in Cluj-Napoca, in April 2010.

I started by going back to my grandparents’ village, Grivita, in Botosani county, with a relative of mine and started talking with various people who were open to it. Some were reluctant, some were shy, some told me straight out that they did not wanted to talk and others talked to me for hours! I have the fondest memories of all these people because they all told a story, in their own way.

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Details on doors, in black and white. Grivita village, Botosani, Romania. Photo by Monica Hrinca.

I also started capturing their environment, just as it was, to better understand them and their life journey. My intention was never to show who is “poor” or “rich” in the general sense of how we understand these notions, but the details of their lives, what makes them unique and different from all the others.

pantofi, sacosaObjects near the entrance of a house in Grivita Village, Botosani, Romania. Hard worn shoes, an old purse. Photos by Monica Hrinca.

I talked and photographed 30 people, ages 65 to 100. It was a long term process in which I played with different ways of best trying to capture the essence of their lives.

I also went through different stages  starting with their hands and faces, then moving on to having their portrait taken while they hold one of their most precious photos in their hands, whit their faces blurred.

Basically, I tried to capture past, present and future, all in one photo…

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batranicaSome of the Romanian villagers captured by Monica for her project/exhibition. Photogravures.

(For our Romanian readers: you can check out a detailed description of her exhibition in the “Ziua de Cluj” Newspaper from April, 2010 and a press release for the one in Oradea, from February 2013)

5. Can you tell us a meaningful story that stayed with you, from talking with the people you photographed for your project?

I can still remember very vividly the very first woman I talked to.

I started by photographing her hands and what she hold in them: old photos with her as a young child, with her mom and grandmother, sitting all together, her on a chair, and then photos with her other family members.

ea mainiYou can see the woman’s hands and her photos in the last picture. Photos taken by Monica.

They were all gone and dead and she was the only one left. The photos were very rugged, old and in a bad condition. She asked me to make photos of those photos so that she can have them until the rest of her life for they were the most precious thing she’s got.

She wanted to preserve and keep them in a clearer, better condition and thus have them as a remnant of the time when she was a young child, happy, safe and intensely alive. I was very moved by her story and the depth of her feelings as well as understanding, in a very striking way, the fastness with which time can passes by and what do we really have left when it’s almost all of it gone.

Truly and only the most important things: family, love, kindness and memories.

I only took pictures of her hands and her photos but with them I won afterwards the first prize at the “Photography: Ethnographic Document” Competition in 2009, in Cluj-Napoca.

6. We all want to look good in pictures. What are some of your best tips for looking our best in photos?

-  Well, the first and most important tip that I can share with you is to (try and) be relaxed. Or as relaxed as possible. Even though you may not enjoy being in photos or someone taking a photo of you, try and smile and think of something pleasant and of something that naturally and easily puts you in a better mood. Like your pet or your favorite vacation place, or chocolate or a favorite dessert :). Anything that works for you.

Now, you could even start dancing beforehand, to relax a bit… ;)

dancing pplDancers in motion, captured by Monica.

-  Secondly, it’s really a good idea to go home and practice in front of the mirror some body and face postures that you like and think portray you at your best. We all have our best sides and any professional photographer that works with models is doing the same thing: is looking and directing the model in order to find her most attractive feature and her best side.

fashion photoA model posing for a vintage look-a-like photo. Taken by Monica.

- Other practical ideas involve standing facing the sun and not having it in your back for that will only capture your contour in the photo, in a blurry and shadowy way.

- Usually, standing either with your left or right side facing the camera, back straight, tummy tucked, face and chin forward AND looking at the camera, smiling in a natural way, work best for anybody. (For more tips, check this video out!)

-  Lastly, no matter in what circumstance the camera finds you, remember that it is only a tool. It is made to capture life’s moments in all their spontaneity or deliberately constructed stances and it is there to work for you rather than against you. In the end, just have fun with it! :)

summer time at the seaSummertime at the seaside. Monica’s photos.

7. How can we take better photos, in 5 easy steps, with a non/semi professional camera?

- Let’s start with the basics: never leave the batteries in your camera for more than 2 weeks because they may and do leak (a detailed explanation, here). Let them discharge completely before you charge them again, it will help their longevity. And take good care of your camera, no matter how expensive/inexpensive it is, how old or new. Clean it properly with a suitable cloth, specially designed for lenses/glasses.

- Keep it away from rain, intense heat or cold. If you’ve been in cold temperatures, let it heat up gradually, do not expose it to heat suddenly. Treat it like a baby! ;)

- Be very careful when using the flash. Firstly, the flash should only be used rarely. In dark spaces or during night time, I suggest using a tripod and long exposure times. Otherwise, the flash will “flatten” the photos and they will turn up unnatural. If you do not have a tripod, use a windowsill, a chair, anything on which the camera can rest safely and in a straight position. Most digital cameras have automatic settings for long exposure times so it should not be too hard. A good rule of thumb is: the darker the room/the space, the longer the exposure time. My best advice, for semi-professional cameras, is to mostly take photos during daytime, when the light is natural and at its best.

- Now, if you want to capture people, think first of what you’d like to represent in the photo. If you’d like to get their whole bodies, let’s say for the prom pictures you’d want to get their attire as well therefore you need to make sure to capture their whole legs and feet. If you’d prefer a more up-close photo, take it from their chest up. Not from the neck, because that will turn out more like an ID photo.

Take a look at how Monica captured ordinary, day to day life events in these pictures:

urban details

- Now, when traveling and if you want to capture something important, a building, a sculpture or a touristic site for example, where usually there are lots of people walking and going everywhere, I suggest you look and walk around yourself first until you find better spots/angles to take your photos.

- For really good photos, study and think about the composition: what do you want to portray, what is the connection between the elements of the photo? What is the structure of it? And what is the best way to convey it, from which angle and position? Think before you take a photo, and thus, you will have fewer ones but of a much better quality which will save you lots of time afterwards since you won’t have to look and choose through hundreds for a really good one.

windowsBeautiful details on some of the house in the Grivita Village, Romania. Photos taken by Monica.

More about Monica, in Romanian though (but our interested English/French/Spanish/German/… speaking friends can use Google Translate ;) ) here: a portrait of her in the Adevarul Newspaper/Oradea. 

I really hope you enjoyed this interview, guys, and learned lots of cool tips and ideas! :)

If you want to contact Monica for work or questions, you can do so here, on the post, or you can write her at: monicapaulahrinca[at]yahoo[dot]com

Love and happy photographing,

Roxi

Cool things around the web – May 11th, 2013

Hello dear friends,

Spring is definitely in the air in Virginia :) Therefore, let’s start this week’s recap of cool things with some info regarding its rituals and celebrations throughout times:

- Rites of Spring

- Paper boats. One of my oldest and fondest memories that I have with my dad is when he showed me how to make them and then let them float on tiny streams created at the edges of the streets after the rain, on a summer day…

- (How to) Love your body! the gentle guide. And then…

- How to get bikini ready :D

- Pay it forward with a cup of coffee. The Italian “suspended coffee” tradition that is now spreading all over Europe!

- Aren’t these absolutely gorgeous and lovely?

- The science of love

- Birth story – a movie that is a MUST!

- BEST advice, ever:

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Found here.

Have a lovely week!

Roxi

Cool things around the web! – May 5th, 2013

Hello dear friends,

Wheeuuu! what a full weekend! Me and Matt went to a chilli cookout yesterday and tried many, many recipes and then, we went dancing with some friends. We had a lot of fun!

With the opening of farmers’ markets and strawberry-picking season, it definitely feels like summertime is just around the corner and I couldn’t be more happier about it. For me, it equals with sunny days in a row, family, laughter, stories over coffee and cake with dear friends, time for traveling and experiencing other cultures, time in my dad’s garden, cultural festivals and well, expansion of mind, heart and spirit! :)

In the meantime, I want to share a few things with you:

- The truth about who truly gets ahead

- How to reset your happiness set point

- If you are an entrepreneur, these great tips on pricing your services will come in handy

- Why you should write daily

- How to blog better, and more efficiently

And…

- The BEST speech I have heard in a very very long time:

Have a very good week everyone and share your happy stories with us!

Love,

Roxi

Cool things around the web – April 29th, 2013

Hello dear friends,

How are you?

I am a little late with the “cool things”, which I decided to post weekly since I stumble upon many awesome, interesting and awe-worthy things that I feel deserve sharing and I apologize for that.

Nonetheless, here we are:

- A paper fruit. In Paris :)

- Homemade gifts and cards for Mothers’ Day. It’s right around the corner, in US at least.

- How to be a leader.

- 7 ways to look better in photos. We all need them!

- I can’t wait to make this! so easy, yummy and deli.

- The city that ended hunger. Yes, it’s possible!

I absolutely LOVE this cover! actually, I like it better than the original. I think it has such a positive, uplifting and inspiring message, yet so simple, that it can reach those who need it instantly (and who doesn’t?). To me, Ella’s voice and her cover, presented for the first time at the XFactor UK in 2012 transmit that even better.

What do you guys think?

Love,

Roxi

Cool things around the web – April 21, 2013!

Hello dear friends,

How was your week? mine was just like life: with surprises, unexpected things, ups and downs.

In between, I have visited a Safari Park, touched a ball python, my car’s battery died (even though it was almost brand new) and I received my very-much-and-long-expected approval for Greencard! Yayyyyaayyyyy! USCIS has been working really hard on it for the past 7 months so Hallelujah!

Anyway, here are some cool things around the web that I want to share with you:

- Famous artists in their workspaces

- This book I am very much looking forward to read! more free books here

- We should ALL read this, as women (and men!)

- About attachment

- 9 things you should consider quitting

- A village in limbo – another great and interesting article by Miss Rebecca Lawn

- 10 things you might not know about love

Even though it is everywhere :)

bonobo-baby-ziegler nat geo photo of the day march 13 2013Bonobo and baby. National Geographic Photo of the Day for March 13th, 2013.

Hope you all have a wonderful week!

Roxi

Cool things around the web – April 14, 2013!

Hello dear friends,

Firstly, thank you so much for all of you, old and new friends, that have subscribed to my blog! :) with so much content and information around us, and so many blogs to choose from, your attention is limited and very precious, so thank you for choosing my little blog to follow.

I hope you will continue to find it inspirational, happy, and a source of good things that are worth spreading!

Now, while we work on the last three interviews and before we wrap up the Inspirational Interview Series (just to give you a sneak peak: we will talk next with a photographer, a youth worker and a very successful personal-development entrepreneur – so exciting!!), I want to leave you with some really cool stuff that I have discovered in the past week(s) and caught my eye:

- Vivian Maier. A nanny that spent all her life, silently and unequivocally, capturing ordinary moments, but nonetheless precious, of the urban America. Like this:

kid town

vivian maier shadows

vivian maier walk

vivian maier baby

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- Cassandra Barney‘s candid and touching paintings, that tell real, personal stories.

Here is one I like a lot:

A Painting by Cassandra Barney

“I’m grateful for sunshine…”

- Pixlr. A really cool (and free!) photo editor that let’s you make your own photo collages (and lots more!).

- The most beautiful street in the world. This made me wildly happy! :)

- Don’t find a soulmate, become a soulmate. This article is SO good, I could not recommend it enough!

And lastly, this photo stayed with me for a while…

boy reading, london, 1944, after a bombing1944. London, after a bombing. Photo found on “Le Shachineur, la brocante en ligne nostalgique”, Facebook Page. Source, here.

The image of a striking young man, so enthralled in his reading, in the midst of war and chaos. A survivor. I find it so beautiful! and I can understand him completely. It must have been such a blissful escape, even if only for a little bit, something sane and stable, in the middle of insanity…and then, I am also wondering, what IS he reading? :)

Love to you all,

Roxi

Inspirational Interview Series: Alexandra Matei, Consultant on Human Rights issues

Dear Friends,

Alexandra Matei is a 24 year old passionate and enthusiastic young woman with 7 years work experience in the non-profit sector. She is also a trainer and consultant on peace issues and youth leadership. She has managed to work for the Council of Europe on youth rights, set-up her own NGO and was responsible for training and coordinating young leaders from more than 20 countries!

Alexandra Matei

Through her work and educational projects, she has managed to study, work and live in Romania, UK, Norway and China.

She is currently living in Galati, Romania, from where she is willing to cooperate and work with like-minded NGO’s and institutions, in need of a fast-forward thinking, hard-working, passionate professional.

I have had the fortune to meet and befriend Alexandra in 2007, at a training on “Gender Inequality and Violence against Women”, held by PATRIR (Peace Action Training and Research Institute of Romania), in Cluj-Napoca.  I was besotted with her energy, enthusiasm and fresh ideas!

As you will discover, she has LOTS to tell you!

1. Hello, Alexandra! Please tell us 5 things about yourself and what do you want to do when you grow up? :)

1) I am an endless optimist who never gives up on people, hopes or dreams, as I truly believe that if you nurture love, life becomes an infinite ocean of possibilities. So, the bigger your dreams are, the higher you reach. The more you give, the more you receive.

2) I am a happy person, feature that I most probably got from my curly hair with whom I surely have a complicated relationship. I’ve always though that my hair and me, we have different personalities but I’ve recently discovered it was a mere illusion, so I embraced it.

3) Old fascinates me: I collect old coins, I like my photos printed out in a leather album, I feed from my childhood memories with a lime-tree blossom fragrance and I treasure my great-grandma’s war stories and my family heritage.

4) I am always in love – with people, books, nature, and animals, love that was born out of my childish curiosity for the unknown. I had the luck of being raised to question everything and I do not fancy fitting in any box whether it is blue (my favorite color) or round or slightly bigger than others.

5) Doing what is right, always, is what I am struggling with. As people, we have a tendency of knowing what is right and wrong (depending on different frameworks of thought), but the challenge is to do what is right although it’s not what’s best for you.

Life is unpredictable. I don’t have a clue where it will take me, but hopefully I will be doing what I am passionate about and possibly, I see myself working for the United Nations or another international organization in the advocacy sector.

2. What are some of your passions and what motivates you the most in your work? 

My parents always tried to find in me different hidden talents or passions – I hereby thank them for their continuous efforts. As a stubborn, way too energetic child and later on teenager, I tried dancing, theater acting, poetry, even singing (although I am the most terrible singer) – but I did not see the spark, so I took on the venture of my parents to keep on searching for my passions.

In 2005, after I started volunteering with children from underprivileged families and orphans in my home city, Galati, Romania, it finally hit me – I have been looking for my passions in the wrong place. My passions were, in fact, not my own.

My passion was and still is the people that I work with, the happiness, the change, the love, the help I manage to offer to others. I learnt that nothing makes me shine brighter than my work in the service of the most vulnerable.

Now, let me clarify one aspect: everyone is vulnerable; some do not have access to water, food, a secure and safe environment, but the most needy ones are the ones that live in ignorance!

Thus, my passion is to assist communities to a better access to education, to human rights protection but also to knowledge, awareness and awakening.

Being able to travel, live and work in different countries and cultural communities I could also see the other side of the coin – an unjust, discriminatory, painful, poor environment where survival is one’s dream and natural right. So, my motivation feeds on these people’s lost dreams, hopes for an inclusive and just future. My motivation is my passion and my passion is the people.

3. You have worked with youths in different projects, over the course of 7 years. What can you tell us about their needs and how can we address them, at the beginning of this Century, with all its tribulations and tech-saviness? 

I sometimes feel that this development in terms of technology and institution -building took us by surprise.

While others are still fighting over land properties, children are educated into war and women are mutilated on cultural beliefs, a few of us (in comparison with the majority of them) have twitter accounts and follow news on our mobile phones, get to connect with people via blogs, Facebook, Skype etc. What does this tell us about priorities and global responsibility? That we, as individual citizens of a global inter-dependent world, lack behind.

Strasbourg Youth Assembly Strasbourg Youth Assembly1As a General Raportteur for the Council of Europe, Alex presided and participated in the Youth Assembly, which took place within the framework of World Forum for Democracy, in Strasbourg, France, Nov. 2012.

This is what happens in Romania itself, and Europe in general. Surely, youth are facing a challenging time, a challenge that spans across all sectors: economic, social, cultural and political. With the increasing number of political demonstrations, riots (the famous 99% Campaign) and actions for change inspired by youth, we can definitely talk about a global movement that puts young people at the core of decision-making.

Although youth have been portrayed as a sacrificed generation[1], I had the opportunity to work in this sector and claim differently. Yes, youth are being disadvantaged due to the political and economical climate in which they develop, yet, creative and sustainable projects are being designed and implemented globally.

Before anything else, young people struggle with creating a bridge between youth and public authorities and institutions. This occurs mainly due to the necessity to come up with inclusive and sustainable solutions for the problems they face with.

I am talking about the need for better access to education especially for those coming from rural areas where, unfortunately, in Romania we still have a high illiteracy rate. We are in high demand for a better educational system throughout Europe, one that transcends from its traditional approaches to one which is focused on creativity and critical thinking – in this respect, the technological advancements paved the way for this change.

I am also referring to access to mobility which brings an invaluable value to shaping youth’s professional as well as personal development. Besides, young people are also trying to find a way in which volunteering and non-formal education is recognized as a channel of training and work experience.

Romania is still trying to catch up with the international developments on youth policies and youth engagement. The civil society, particularly in Romania, did not manage very well to shape the culture of volunteerism, although I believe we are on the right track and I am certain we will have great achievements in this area. I base my hopes on the excellent work of different national NGOs such as “The Romanian Youth Council”, the “New Horizons Foundation“, “The League of Romanian Students Abroad” and many more that I worked with or am familiar with their developments.

As I mentioned above, it is essential to have a bridge between youth and public authorities. A co-management initiative has been set into motion by many youth-led non-governmental organizations either at national, local or regional level. This could definitely be one way of approaching the demotivation and the mutual lack of trust of both groups. It remains to be seen how this will affect on the long-term the efficiency of NGOs and their beneficiaries.

Yet, I would suggest that young people should have more expectations from themselves rather than from other institutions; and obviously, they should identify or establish means of pursuing their expectations. Given the heaven of information available to them, either from browsing or even their personal networks, youth can reach a large audience; can establish partnerships and collaboration with other young people who share the same needs and passions even if they are miles away.

It is also true that Internet and its miracles can also have a negative aspect, in this sense, because information is widely spread and there is no complex system set in place that could ease access to information. So, indeed, there is this possibility of loosing track of relevant information. On the other side, there are many platforms that offer this type of access. One example could be SALTO training platform that is accessible to everyone.

Therefore, youth is far from being a sacrificed generation or an alienated one. Young people have to deal with the deficiencies of a system that no longer represents them and their needs. It does not imply that youth cannot bring any positive change, because they are doing it as we’re speaking. It just means that it’s going to take us (me included) more determination and vision.

I believe we are off to a great start!

4. What are, therefore, in your opinion, the most stringent needs of Romanian Youths? 

Currently in Romania, a young person with the age between 15 and 30 tackles with two major issues: education and employability.

Despite the frequent changes of political color in the educational sector, a slow reform took place in this sector.

Education expanded beyond classrooms either in the virtual networks – there are a few intellectually challenging online “universities” such as Coursera or institutes and/or NGOs who offer either free or paid training – either in the extracurricular area that being, volunteering.

Non-formal education has received recognition from civil society actors and we are one step closer to an official recognition from national and international decision-making bodies. But we are not there yet. Many initiatives are raising awareness on the advantages this experience brings for the volunteer himself and the organization/society as a whole. I would not rush into stating that Romanian youth have fully undergone this transition phase.

Volunteering as well as this openness for alternative means of learning requires the abandonment of stereotypes and the acceptance of Internet’s role in our personal and professional lives. Hence, young people need to be guided into this direction either by their tutors, family or friends.

In Romania we need a culture of volunteering, we need to raise awareness on volunteering’s advantages and where it could take us: to a new educational level and system of thought!

Education has also been positively correlated with employability. So, the higher your education level is, the higher your chances of employability. Due to the current financial events, low levels of employability also affected highly educated youth. Romania scored a total of approximately 47% in youth unemployment in comparison with Scandinavian countries where unemployment does not exceed 10%.[2]

This leaves Romanian youth with a major problem: postponing adulthood and/or immigration. With low chances of employment, Romanian youth (although this applies for Europe as well) lean towards investing in higher levels of education (Master, PhD) and even embark on unpaid internships in order to gain skills, thus, enhance their likelihood for landing in a job. Others decide to migrate in countries with better opportunities for accomplishment. Therefore, Romania is at risk of gradually loosing its guarantee for a bright future that’s ahead of us.

5. Starting with this year, you are the Vice-President and founding member of the International Organization for Young Diplomats, with its main headquarter in Galati, Romania. Tell us more about its mission, objectives and current projects as well as what motivated you, along with your partners, to start this NGO?

The International Organization for Young Diplomats is a recently set up non-governmental organization that aims to promote youth and children who are in the process of their career growth by actively involving them in issues of regional and international interest.

This organization aims to train them as young diplomats of the civil society, thus re-framing the concept of a diplomat.

Also, we aim to develop a cooperative behavior towards the international community so that the projects developed by young people would have a sustainable and visionary impact. Currently we are in the phase of establishing our development strategy and we encourage young people who are interested and support our mission to join this enthusiastic team.

Besides this, we are also involved in two big projects, “Rotaract International Model United Nations “ and “My World 2015 Campaign” which is a UN initiative through which citizens, especially marginalized and vulnerable groups can shape and influence decision-making. With many other projects on the waiting list, we hope to manage to create a global network of highly intellectual and visionary young leaders who can be ambassadors of their community’s needs.

The reason I decided to establish this platform together with Mr. Dan Ungureanu was the lack of initiatives that targeted youth in a delicate phase of their development.

Romania, as well as other countries, deals with youth unemployment as we discussed earlier. For this reason, we decided to engage the youth sector in a two-way development approach: first, by offering them the chance to develop strong skills in their area of expertise and secondly, by using their skills to help communities and promote global responsibility.

We trust in children and youth’s power for change and the International Organization for Young Diplomats aims to train young people and deliver worldwide services using their skills and our resources.

6. You are also a Secretary General for Rotaract International Model United Nations, Baia Mare, Romania, starting with 2012. Tell us something about it: what it is, its mission and some of its projects.

Rotaract is a sponsored service within Rotary International and is specially designed for youth.

Through Rotaract, young people develop abilities and competences while addressing their communities’ needs. Its activities promote international cooperation and peace though its services and networks. Currently, there are more than 7.000 Rotaract Clubs in 163 countries. Therefore, Rotaract is a worldwide phenomenon! Moreover, Rotaract aims to have an impact starting from grassroots.

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At NapoMUN, 2009: International Project that gathered youths from 20 countries and trained them in diplomacy, mediation and international relations.

Its mission is to offer support to communities by developing humanitarian and social projects in order to promote globalization and peace.

With the support of “Club Rotaract Team Baia Mare”, an international event that aims to give voice to youth and include them in the decision-making process is going to take place this August, between 21st and 25th.

I have the honor to act as the Secretary General of Rotaract International Model United Nations that aims to bring young people’s solutions to global problems on the UN desk. To achieve this dream, Rotaract International Model United Nations promotes excellence in education, professionalism in organization and integrity in performance.

Following the historical structure of the United Nations mechanism and its procedures, Rotaract International Model United Nations 2013 simulates four councils: The Security Council, Human Rights Council, Economic and Social Council and the Peacebuilding Comission.

Depending on the body in which each participant decides to work, different topics of international importance will be discussed and debated based on strict rules of procedures which will be implemented by the Secretariat. Each participant has the possibility to express the views and interests of the country he/she represents.

Therefore, besides accumulating strong knowledge of global issues, participants will also master: the art of negotiation, public speaking using the official UN language and using the procedural mechanisms set in motion by the UN.  Every person interested in taking part in this international event is welcome to apply as a delegate or as a Rapporteur.

Applications will be open until late March and will be advertised on the official website.

7. Also in 2012, you were an Intern at the Chunjiang Pre-Primary Potentiality Development Center in Nanjing, China. What are some of the biggest cultural clashes that you’ve had as well as some of your favorite memories and discoveries? And what were your main duties and responsibilities there?

To be honest, I don’t remember encountering any major cultural clash.

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Alex, on the Great Wall of China, 2012.

Indeed, there are many differences of culture, mentality and lifestyle but it did not affect me in a negative way. Yes, it was a bit confusing for me as a foreigner to adapt to their openness as neighbors would keep their doors open or they would sleep on a chair in the middle of the market or you’d see cats eating noodles with rice.

So, all these are quite amusing now that I think of them because they have their own charm and it definitely made me curious about living and working there.

In terms of discoveries, my entire stay in Nanjing was a continuous discovery.

One day I found out that pizza is something you eat along with rice, that Chinese people think Westerners are fat because of how much chocolate they eat or if you want to catch the bus you need to be damn fast – is part of the survival kit. :)

Besides this knowledge, the environment, the happiness and fun that comes from bargaining while shopping make China the most attractive destination.

On top of that, the history along with well-preserved temples, monuments, gardens and sky scrappers is a breath-taking combination. I wouldn’t miss a chance to go back and even settle down there!

This passion I got for the Chinese culture is also part of my work experience there. As you said, I worked for a couple of months as an intern so I could grasp both the touristic and the work lifestyle.

As an intern, I was responsible for participating in conferences organized by different universities in Nanjing, I was in charge of developing projects with a human rights focus which I successfully carried out on the topic of Child’s Rights, I participated at different events such as the International Children’s Day where I even danced and I also taught English to children from 2-7 years old. It felt even better than home and I am always sentimental when looking back to the time spent there.

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China village

Alexandra with most of her students and in the classroom.

I felt a sense of accomplishment both on a personal and professional level. China is surprisingly awesome!

8. Any tips to accommodate and adjust better to the Chinese culture, for those that want to travel and possibly, live there?

China was not what I expected but way better! So, the first step is to decide to go there and try everything.

If you’re not a traveler or you lack orientation, then make sure you have a map with you with the name of the place you’re living in because the chances to get lost are fairly high.

China by day is not China by night when the night market is in its full-blossom, where the streets are full with food stands and road shops. And everyone is out!

Also, before coming, it would be useful to establish some connections with a local so that he/she can show you around in case you want to travel and visit.

If you travel by train, make sure you get a bed even if they tell you it’s too small for Europeans. Also, when you want to purchase something, bargain as much as you can – the real price is half the initial one. As a suggestion, I include rice restriction, as we (Westerners) are not accustomed with it in large quantities and might bring some discomfort. Although there are shops tailored for foreigners, usually the price is pretty high, so make sure you travel to IKEA often in order to purchase chocolate or other Western foods.

Apart from this, go out! Experience dancing and singing karaoke in the market or in the park, try Chinese meals – they are delicious, but very spicy! – and use the tiny taxis, eat street food, try Chinese palm reading or flying a kite.

If you go with your mind open and tolerant, the feeling of belonging to the community and their mentality, which this implies, will make you even rethink your life priorities!

9. Between 2010 and 2011, you obtained a Master of Arts in Law and Politics from the University of Manchester, UK, with Merit (!). How was your studying experience there and what are some of your practical tips for studying abroad? What was the hardest and the easiest? And how did you feel as a Romanian, studying in UK? 

I lived and studied in Great Britain for over a year while pursing my Master studies in Human Rights Law and Politics at the University of Manchester.

manchesterWith some friends, in Manchester, UK.

Despite being accepted at other programs in Europe and UK, my choice was simple. Manchester University could offer me something other programs couldn’t: a double major including law, although I did not possess a law degree. Plus, it was ranked as the 23rd best university in the world for the social sciences school as well.

Therefore, one advice I could offer to any prospective student is to pick the program that is tailored based on his needs and do some research before in respect to staff and career opportunities.

The second best advice is to try to accommodate with the thought that living abroad is different from traveling or visiting.

Many young people have unreal expectations or ideas about living and studying abroad. So, it is healthy to know that the culture might be way different than you expect and might affect you in various ways. Apart from the parties, the friendships, the multiculturalism and opportunities for development that you already anticipate, there is also that.

As a personal experience, I found it extremely challenging to adapt to the rainy weather, which was the main reason why I did not accept to continue my work there. So, definitely the hardest for me was this. While, I guess, the easiest was the academic environment because having studied at an English language program in Romania the standards and academic excellence were similar. I did not encounter any difficulties in this respect and I have to extend my gratitude to my professors from The Faculty of Political Science, Babes-Bolyai University of Cluj-Napoca (Romania).

Studying at Manchester University was an experience that equipped me with excellent research and analytical skills, besides the complex in-depth knowledge that I gained throughout the courses.

In a highly competitive environment, yet friendly and motivating, professors would enjoy intellectual debates both during the formal course as well as in an informal setting. This certainly adds a big plus to studying abroad.

10. In August 2011, you took a Summer Course on Peace from the University of Oslo, Norway. How did you develop your interest in this topic and what have you learned most valuable about it? 

Although my experience in Oslo was only for the summer as I received a scholarship for the Peace Research summer program, I confess that I immediately felt in love with the country and the program.

The intense study program was based on practical experiences of peace workers and experts from PRIO[3]. Being part of a top-notch program that I wholehearted recommend to every professional interested in peace studies, under the guidance of two devoted American professors, Mrs Kendra Dupuy and Mr Stephan Hamberg, I had the unique opportunity to get trained in conflict studies and discuss international issues with young fellows from all over the world.

Nobel institute OsloWith her colleagues in Oslo, Norway, 2011.

As I mentioned previously, I specialized in human rights, therefore, taking part in the peace research course was a natural step. I am a person who seeks to improve her skills and gain more knowledge, thus, this was a great opportunity for me to gain a holistic understanding of human rights issues.

During the course, I managed to get trained by specialists in the field, mostly researchers from PRIO, and finally comprehended the complexity of conflicts. Starting from Galtung’s theory of conflict to peace building and responsibility to protect, this program exposed me to the process of conflict and how people and institutions play different roles in finding a resolution.

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In Nijmegen, The Netherlands, 2011 and Strasbourg, France, 2012, presiding Conferences on Peace and Human Rights issues.

Up till then, I was not very familiar with the complexity of peace processes in the African continent neither with the women’s role in that particular area.

I recall the Liberian conflict under the presidency of Charles Taylor, more specifically the women’s movement under the leadership of a young woman known as the Black Diamond. I believe this is an example of courage and determination for all women coming from conflict areas and not only.

Living in a society where men inflict pain is what brings women together and in this case, it brought them into the war. Liberia’s case and the women movement is a valuable lesson because women penetrated the “world of men” by taking up arms and fighting for themselves.

We need to acknowledge that these women witnessed the horrors of war – their families being killed, raped and drugged, while their children – sometimes as young as five – were recruited into guerrilla or pro-government militias either in the country or in the neighboring states. But these women brought peace in the region and due to their efforts Liberia managed to draft a peace agreement. This example of conflict resolution is one of my favorites because it shows the power of women and that women are disregarded or poorly understood when it comes to politics!

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As a Chair of Security Council at Salamanca International Model United Nations held in Salamanca, Spain, Alexandra moderated a Conference on “Women and War”, 2010.

In the end, an excellent program, no matter its subject/field,  is the one that enables you to expand your vision and motivates you to further your work in that field. The Peace Research summer program successfully managed to inspire my work.

11. In today’s world, that seems to be filled with conflict, is there any hope for building a more peaceful world, and if so, what would be the steps, in your view and from your experience?

Hope is something we never loose, so, I wish we carried on working for building a peaceful world despite various actors’ failures to ensure it to their people.

The way I see it, there is a slight misunderstanding of what peace means, thus, it’s hard for us to know how to achieve it.

Peace in the common understanding means the absence of war. But, that is far from being the case and peace scholars are fully aware of this misconception.

Violence comes from action, action comes from words and words come from thought. People should stop thinking negatively which would consequently lead to a peaceful communication that obviously leads to a tolerant behavior towards others beliefs, rituals and lifestyles.

This is what we can do as individuals!

On the other hand, governments and international organizations should invest more in peace studies and projects that promote peace and intercultural or international cooperation. I would go even further than that in suggesting that peace (either through a peace commission or council) should become a pillar in the governmental structures irrespective of the internal situation of each state.

12. Could you recommend us some resources that would help us understand this issue better?

One great resource that I find extremely useful is the book “Unintended Consequences of Peacekeeping”[1] which explains peacekeeping operations using both academic analysis and field research.

I warmly recommend you to read my book entitled “United Nations: The Legal Responsibility for Peacekeepers’ Human Rights Violations”[2] that looks at both the legal and moral responsibility of UN in conflict-ridden states.

I would also mention the nicely written article on “Give War a Chance”[3] as it provides a different perspective on conflict. Ingierd’s dissertation on “Moral Responsibility in War: A Normative Analysis Focusing on Peacekeepers” which is an in-depth study over norms of responsibility and morality is also a practical suggestion for experts from different fields of expertise[4].

Some good articles are: “Responsibility and Culpability in War”[5], “Peacekeeping and the Sexual Exploitation of Women and Girls in Post- Conflict Societies: A Serious Enigma to Establishing the Rule of Law”[6] and “Transnational Dimensions of Civil War”[7].

Other resources that I suggest for reading are Thakur’s book “The United Nations, Peace and Security. From Collective Security to the Responsibility to Protect”[8], Prince Zeid’s Report “A Comprehensive Strategy to Eliminate Future Sexual Exploitation and Abuse in United Nations Peacekeeping Operations”[9] and the Additional Protocol to the Geneva Conventions of 12 August 1949, and relating to the Protection of Victims of International Armed Conflicts (Protocol I)[10].

13. Having, as one of your main professional interests, the empowerment of women in post-conflict areas, can you tell us some practical ideas and steps that women in that situation can take? And how about the role of the institutions and organizations that are aimed to protect them? Are they effective?

It is impossible for me to speak in the name of those women mainly because I haven’t ever been in a similar situation.

Women from conflict-torn states as well as civilian men are undergoing inhuman treatment. The range of atrocities is horrifying and living under threat can paralyze anyone. Therefore, inaction is also perfectly understandable.

If we only refer to post-conflict situations, women can play a major role in shaping the future of their new societies. As we have already seen, many women took leadership and established organizations fighting for refugee rights and protection, a better election system and inclusion of war victims in the community. The way in which women could get involved in the post-reconstruction and peace building process clearly varies depending on the local context.

For example, a woman from Uganda might help the community in various ways, some of which I have already noted, such as making use of the micro-loans available in agriculture, crafts in order to financially support the family. Note that these women might be the sole providers for their families after the war ceased. They could also act as leaders of their community by gathering support and even competing in elections or leading change at a local level.

Women have been disregarded as possible social and political actors, but women are most suitable to outline the future of these torn societies as they were the victims upon which most suffering was inflicted. As I mention in my book, “United Nations: The Legal Responsibility for Peacekeeper’s Human Rights Abuses”, even the agency responsible to protect these women abuses its power.

So, who protects them against their “protectors”? United Nations, however, has done much in this respect in order to ensure transparency during peacekeeping operations and to prosecute the soldiers. Unfortunately, we deal with fear, with a high bureaucratic system and with unaccountable governments. For this reason, based on the concept of responsibility to protect I believe that women and children’s safe haven is for peacekeepers to fall into the United Nations’ jurisdiction. This would ease the entire prosecution process and abusers will be punished according to international law norms. This is indeed a daring proposition for governments, but I am confident that given the developments from the last century, it is not a far-fetched goal.

14. And what about us, from afar, how can we help?

Depending on our backgrounds and possibilities, we can either support different local and international NGOs with donations.

But even more efficient would be to travel there and offer our skills even for a short-term, in case we can afford it.

Another option could be sponsoring a child to go to school, and I can recommend ICEF Canada for its amazing work in Uganda, where it opened the Tekera Centre that includes a clinic, an elementary school, a crafts club and a farm. You can find more about this project on their official website.

And, of course, volunteering or getting involved in NGOs that aim to address these issues. These are the ways in which one could help tremendously.

15. In the end, what can each and everyone of us do to lead more peaceful lives and therefore, achieve a more peaceful world? 

I’ve thought of this question myself and so far, I came to think that the answer is so simple that it makes everyone confused: to love. :)

Yes, if we become aware of how much we can solve just by loving and caring even our most distant neighbor, peace would stop being a goal and turn into a state of being.

The first step that we could make is to undo the teaching of hate; this constant fight with normality that places us in different frames is just recreating hate which leads to violence (physical or not).

I admit it is hard for everyone to detach from any pre-set lifestyle norms and guidelines that radically divide us into different groups. But, if it is to narrow down what’s important for everyone is the sense of being loved.

And if a person manages to love himself/herself, the rest follows as a domino.

I am doubtful in what capacity this process relies on family or school education – it surely helps – but I tend to agree more with peace being a self-discovery and self-taught process.

Perhaps, analyzing your actions and thoughts at least once a day may lead to inner peace; and imagine if each of us would subject himself/herself to a similar process of thought. It makes me enthusiastic to think of the day when the world would not know such word as peace, because peace would just be because it is!

16. Alexandra, how would you envision a desirable future world? How would your perfect world be?

I wish for the future world to be wiser than the present one, to know that individualism and consumerism makes humanity inhuman.

I would like to see technological advancements used with humanitarian purpose in an equal, fair and transparent manner. This includes medical innovations that will ease human suffering and help find cures for illnesses that we are currently struggling with.

In a nutshell, my future world would be a global family where everyone bears responsibility for their kin.

17. And if you could say something to it, what would it be?

Don’t pride yourself in ignorance, be humble in servitude!

Alexandra, thank you so much for such an insightful and comprehensive interview on the topics of peace, conflicts, justice and women’s issues.

Dear friends, for more info or regarding future work for Alex, you can contact her at: alexandraamatei (at) yahoo (dot) com.

More about her education and professional projects, on her personal website:  http://alexandraamatei.wix.com/professionalwork

Love and peace to you all,

Roxi

The resources mentioned in the interview:


[1] Council of Europe’s Parliamentary Assembly Report 12951 Accessible at: http://assembly.coe.int/ASP/Doc/XrefViewPDF.asp?FileID=18739&Language=en

[2] ILO Report “The youth employment crisis: A call for action” accessible at: http://www.ilo.org/ilc/ILCSessions/101stSession/texts-adopted/WCMS_185950/lang–en/index.htm

[3] The Peace Research Institute of Oslo – www.prio.org

[4] Aoi, C., de Coning, C. and Thakur, R. (eds) 2007. Unintended Consequences of Peacekeeping. Tokyo: United Nations University Press

[5] Matei, A. 2012. United Nations: The Legal Responsibility for Peacekeepers’ Human Rights Violations. Germany: LAP LAMBERT Academic Publishing

[6] Luttwak, E.N. 1999. “Give War a Chance”. Foreign Affairs 78(4):36-44

[7] Ingierd, C.H. 2010. “Moral Responsibility in War: A Normative Analysis Focusing on Peacekeepers”. Dissertation presented at the Department of Political Science of the University of Oslo on June 2010

[8] Ingierd, H., and Syse, H. 2005. “Responsibility and Culpability in War”. Journal of Military Ethics, vol.4, no.2: 85-99

[9] Morris, C. 2010. “Peacekeeping and the Sexual Exploitation of Women and Girls in Post- Conflict Societies: A Serious Enigma to Establishing the Rule of Law”. Journal ofInternational Peacekeeping 14(1-2):184-212

[10]  Gleditsch, K. S. 2006. “Transnational Dimensions of Civil War”, PRIO

[11] Thakur, R. 2006. The United Nations, Peace and Security. From Collective Security to the Responsibility to Protect. Tokyo: United Nations University Press

[12] Prince Zeid Report 2005. “A Comprehensive Strategy to Eliminate Future Sexual Exploitation and Abuse in United Nations Peacekeeping Operations”. UNlb.org

[13] Protocol Additional to the Geneva Conventions of 12 August 1949, and relating to the Protection of Victims of International Armed Conflicts (Protocol I), 8 June 1977. ICRC.org

Inspirational Interview Series: Rebecca Lawn, Freelance Journalist

Dear Friends,

Miss Rebecca Lawn is a freelance journalist that is currently based in London, UK. She has managed to live in more than 4 countries for various periods of time, get involved (through her work and by volunteering) in important social projects, and managed to become a successful freelance journalist, all by the age of 25!

beckyThis is her, smiling and lovely as always :)

I have had the fortune to meet and befriend her in 2008. We were both interviewing, at the time, for a job position at a local kindergarten in Cluj-Napoca, Romania. Neither one of us got it but our friendship flourished nonetheless, naturally and very easily, from that moment on. We spent some wonderful times together exploring Cluj-Napoca and its cultural and artistic venues, as well as Paris, France, two years afterwards. We also discovered early on that we share many interests and passions that were very solemnly discussed in chic cafés, over a good cup of coffee and a rich (chocolate!) cake.

15292_383346396362_1887705_nMe and her in Paris, in front of L’ Arc de Triomphe. March 2010.

I was deeply impressed with her openness, curiosity, sweetness and her views about journalism. I remember asking her once how does she handle having to talk to many people and mostly, having to probe and possibly ask a lot of personal questions. How does she get people to open up? And how far does she go?

In a media that is full of paparazzi where all intimate, personal details of public people’s lives are savagely pursued, discussed and judged, where the right for a private life has lost all its sanctity, I found her answers very striking and made me grew in respect for her, both as a person and friend, and as a journalist. She told me that first of all, she respects her interviewers. And then, she listens. Truly listens to what they have to say, especially to the things they leave unsaid. Actually, those are the very things she pays close attention to. Most of all, she is always mindful of their sorrows and their need to have some things kept private. If they do not want to answer some questions, she is respectful of that.

I find that amazing! I know many journalists are faced with looking and finding a scandalous and dramatic story just for the sake of boosting the sales and focusing solely on those subjects, looking incessantly just for the negative and probing mindlessly into people’s lives.

Therefore, I believe that she has a lot of things to share with the rest of us!

Here is our interview:

1.  Hi Becky! Please start by telling us 5 things about yourself and what do you want to do when you grow up? :)

Five things:

1) I have had the opportunity to travel, live in different countries and meet people from all over the world; that is one of the things I feel most grateful for.

2) I started writing stories as a young child and haven’t stopped. (My stories don’t involve so many animal families and aliens from Jupiter now though, sadly!)

3) I have curly hair and I’ll always remember a rhyme my grandma used to say: ‘There was a little girl, who had a little curl, right in the middle of her forehead. And when she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was horrid!’ It still makes me smile!

4) I seem to collect quotes. I love this one in particular:  ”Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear” – Mark Twain

5) I often get the urge to do really daft stuff like jump in piles of autumn leaves, dance like a fool or run through the park like Phoebe does in Friends! :)

In my ideal future, I would love to have a family, live by the sea, write novels and do charity work.

2. What is your favorite playtime and what do you do to relax and enjoy yourself?

Being in the sea, on the sea or near the sea! It’s like an addiction! It just relaxes me completely. I’d love to live by the sea one day. I’ve recently started learning to surf which has been a lot of fun. Otherwise I enjoy sitting in a cafe, catching up with friends or reading a good book.

3. You are a freelance journalist. What made you decide to become one in the first place, and how has your journey been so far?

I really loved my job working for a newspaper in France but unfortunately it closed. I knew I wanted to keep writing so I decided to try my luck as a freelancer.

I’ve been freelancing for about a year and a half. I enjoy the freedom it gives you and the fact that you get to have different experiences and meet interesting people. However it isn’t always easy. When I was in France, I also taught English and worked in a museum for a while alongside writing. That suited me quite well as I like variety.

4.  What are the nowadays challenges of your job?

It’s great to be able to write the stories that you want to write, but at the same time, you do have to pay the bills so sometimes you take on work that you might not be very passionate about. (I wrote a gardening column once, despite not having a garden!). However, when an editor likes an idea that you are passionate about, it’s brilliant.  Unless you’re very well established, it can be hard to know how much work you have on each week. It can vary. I enjoy it but ideally I would like to combine freelancing with other work.

5. In 2008, you spent a three-months internship in Romania. Tell us about your experience there and what did you find surprising about the country?

I lived in Cluj-Napoca, a lovely town in Transylvania, for three months after I graduated from the London-Paris University.

One of my favourite memories from that time is of picking grapes on the side of a mountain. I was there in autumn so the mountains were brightly coloured in patches of red, yellow and orange. I went one Saturday with my flatmates, a brother and sister, to help their grandmother with the grapes. Every time we came back in the house with the bags, their grandmother had made more food! I loved Romanian food, especially “sarmale” (stuffed cabbage) and “mititei” (sausages).

My other favourite memory is of visiting Sibiu and Sighisoara, two beautiful towns, with no other than Roxi Staton ;) I loved taking the train because there were separate carriages so we could each have a bench to lie on as we looked out the window in the evening at the snow-topped mountains. It was magical!

I didn’t really know what to expect but I still found quite a lot of things surprising. There are a few things that stand out – I remember the first thing that hit me was the architecture because I had never seen Orthodox churches before. And I was amazed by how many languages a lot of the young people I met could speak. I was also surprised by the hitch-hiking! It seemed like a normal every day thing – it’s how a lot of people got home from work. I even did it myself once – I’d missed the last bus from Turda, a town near Cluj Napoca, where there is an impressive salt mine, and so I got a lift with an old man who drove a Dacia. There were two women and a little boy in the car too. I have to say I thought that he’d drive a lot slower than he did! When I think about it now it was probably a bit dangerous but it was fun at the time!

It’s also very definitely a Latin country. Coming from a country where people are known to say sorry if you bump into them and say please and thank you at least five times when buying something in a shop, there was quite a big difference. I remember being in the office when my colleagues starting having what I thought was an argument – raised voices, arms flying. I had no idea what was going on and was worried it was about to kick off! Later I asked one of my colleagues what had happened and she just said ‘oh we were just discussing something!’

(Haha, yes, we are and can be very expressive and opinionated! :))

6.  What are, in your perspective, the country’s main issues and strong points?

When you think about the country’s history, how people lived under Ceausescu, I think one of its strong points is the strength of its people. The main road through Cluj-Napoca is named “Decembrie 21 1989″, a constant reminder, along with the bold, steel, anti-Communist monument, of the country’s revolutionary past.

When I was there, I felt that Romanians were very proud of their country. They were also proud of the fact that they had joined the EU, as they felt it was a positive step. And of course the country is very beautiful!

I think there are issues with poverty, especially in rural areas, low wages which make it difficult if not impossible to live well and a ‘brain drain’ whereby qualified young people are moving abroad because there are not opportunities for them. I think that sadly the country also suffers from a bad image abroad, although this may be changing. (I hope this is the case.) I also think there is also a lot of tension between Romanians and the Roma community.

7. If you could sum up your experience there in just three words, what would they be?

Eye-opening, adventure and friendship.

8.  In February 2010, you spent 10 days in Sri Lanka exploring women’s specific issues for that region. What have you discovered about women’s rights there and their much needed empowerment? What are the major differences between our (Western) culture and theirs?

Yes, I went to Sri Lanka with an association to research issues affecting women. I found that our societies had many things in common, although I think there is less pressure on women in the West. In Sri Lanka, there is still the idea that a woman’s ‘proper place’ is in the home. Feminists there have fought for women’s rights in education and work but tradition and culture put pressure on women to act and behave a certain way. I think this is changing for young women living in cities, though.

Sri LankaIn Sri Lanka, talking with a local about Women’s issues.

I think one thing I realized about women’s rights is that they’re not permanent. I used to think that as they had been fought for and obtained, there was no going back. But what we’re seeing this across the world at the moment is just how fragile they can be – we can’t get complacent; sometimes you have to keep fighting.

As for cultural differences, there is a real emphasis on the family and on making guests feel at home in Sri Lanka. I stayed with my friend’s family and I felt welcome straight away. I was unbelievably spoilt and looked-after! The other thing is you must always remember to use your right hand to eat with.

9. Your last international project was in Honduras, with a charity called Progressio. There, you were a 3 months volunteer, teaching to children and working with local women on developing sustainable business activities . Tell us about what you have earned, how it influenced your life and what made you decide to apply and join the volunteering program?

I have always wanted to volunteer abroad on a meaningful project and I was excited when I came across International Citizen Service (ICS), a program funded by the British government which gives young people the chance to work in development for three months.

I worked for a charity called Progressio and I lived in Marcala, a small town in Honduras which is known for its coffee. It’s very high up and surrounded by cloud forest. Honduras is a beautiful country but sadly poverty, violence and corruption are serious issues there – 60 percent of people live below the poverty line!

becky w the vol in hondurasBecky with the other volunteers in Honduras, after arrival.

Being a volunteer in Honduras was life-changing! I met some remarkable people, such as Maria, who runs a small business producing organic fair-trade aloe vera soaps and shampoos, and Delila, who is involved with an anti-femicide campaign and raises awareness of domestic violence.

I went out with nine other volunteers and we worked with two organizations: COMUCAP and COOMUPL. They aim to empower women and provide technical assistance and training to help them to develop business activities, mainly in organic coffee production. (You must try Honduran coffee if you haven’t yet – it’s good!)

While we were there, our aims were to help local women to diversify their diets by planting different crops and to work on projects linked to the environment and sustainability. We were involved in many different activities, from tilling soil with pickaxes to picking coffee, teaching school kids about recycling and creating a mural on climate change in the centre of the town.

All of us in the field

In the fields, after a hard day of work. They helped till the soil, put in an irrigation system and plant carrots.

I came away with a greater understanding of poverty, alongside a feeling that I had hopefully done something to help.

TeachingBecky, teaching to the children about recycling. They also did arts and crafts and had a ‘mini Olympics’ (with sack races, sprinting, dance lessons, “pin the tail on the donkey” and catapults). 

It’s easy to think that as just one person you don’t have the ability to change things, but I don’t think that’s true. Exchanges, connections, showing that you care – that can all have a positive impact.

When you see how some people live, the difficulties they face, it does put your own concerns into perspective. I think I’ve become a lot more grateful!

(More about her project in Sri Lanka, here).

10. You also lived in Paris, France, for about six years, studying, working and living there. What are your best tips for the people that want to live and travel to Paris?

CafecremeBecky at a Café in Paris, France.

Paris really is beautiful! There is something mesmerizing about it. As a traveller, I’m sure you’ll want to see certain places like the Eiffel Tower, the Sacre Coeur and the Notre Dame because they’re stunning, but I also have a few less well-known favourites to recommend:

* Parc des Buttes Chaumont, for a Sunday afternoon stroll.

* Rue de la Butte aux Cailles: a lively little cobbled street tucked away in a residential area. It is lined with fun bars and cafes, and there’s a great atmosphere on Friday and Saturday nights.

* Helmut Newcake: a gluten-free bakery which is just divine for anyone with coeliacs who don’t want to miss out on croissants and pastries!

* 25 Est is a great restaurant by the canal. Perfect for sitting outside on summer evenings or for grabbing a hot chocolate in winter!

If you want to live there, I’d say really make an effort with your French before you go as you will feel a lot more at home. Do some research before you go –it’s better to have an honest picture of what life there will be like so you know what to expect.

11. Now, at the end, please tell us what makes you a powerful, honest and good journalist?

Thank you! It’s hard to answer that. I guess what interests me is being able to tell people’s stories, especially when they don’t have a voice. And I’m always trying to be better at what I do. There’s definitely a lot of room for improvement!

12. How would you like the World to be, in the future?

I think I want what most people want – a world that is fair and tolerant, a world without war and poverty. It is scandalous that people’s basic needs are not met in this day and age– the world produces enough food for everyone and yet many people do not have enough to eat.

13….And if you could say one thing to it, what would it be?

I hope we start to look after you better.

Thank you, Becky, for so graciously answering my questions and sharing your experiences with us!

Guys, I hope you enjoyed this interview and all the wonderful tips and inspirational ideas that it contains just as much as we loved putting it together! :)

If you want to know more about Rebecca Lawn and her work or if you’d like to contact her for future work, you can do so here, on her WordPress page.

And here, an article that she wrote for The Telegraph about being an expat in Paris ;)

Love to you all,

Roxi

Presenting: The Inspirational Interview Series!

Dear Friends,

During my lifetime and my travels, I have often met many wonderful people that have inspired me, through their lives and their choices, to do and be better.

At first glance, they seemed simple, ordinary people, just like me and you. Nothing special about them. :) Spending time with and around them though, seeing their life values, their healthy choices and their work ethic, I have come to realize that these people were not so ordinary. They were, slowly and diligently, more or less quietly, carving their own reality for the better. Just like a small ripple, intensifying, in a quiet lake. Many times, they were oasis of calm, love and goodness for the rest of us. I am sure you have met these kind of people as well…people that are serene amidst storm, that show integrity in difficult situations, kindness when you least expect it, love and encouragement to everyone, especially when it is mostly needed. People that just somehow, have it all together.

Most of all, they reach out. They ask questions. They travel, they volunteer, they believe in something good and honest. They do not give up! They fight, but with the right armour (honesty, courage, diligence, patience, integrity…). They are often taking the extra plunge, courageously, to live an authentic life, to stretch their comfort zones and live outside the boundaries and expectations of the society, their families, but in a good and positive way.

Secondly, there are many, many more people out there that live their life simply, with true dignity, grace, following a strong chore of ethical values, living purposeful, meaningful lives. We need to know more about them!

We NEED to take a closer look at them and see in them the true  role-models (as an alternative to the majority of the celebrities, who seem caught in a cheating scandal one after another, who are more or less confused, disturbed, greedy and who, unfortunately, set the tone and the trend for our children and youths! ). Words are always so very easy to use, but actions will speak way louder and more accurately about someone’s character, personality and their life choices: are they healthy, are they positive, do they strive for compassion, authenticity, tolerance, grace and kindness? Are these people genuine?

These are some of the questions that have guided me in choosing the people that I will present to you in the Interview Series.

Thirdly, all of these people that I will present to you are people that I have met, observed, talked and worked with, therefore the reason why I have chosen them is because I have the knowledge, without a doubt, that their message is authentic and accurate.

Therefore, I have asked them some important questions about their lives, their choices and adventures, and they were, fortunately, very glad to share their wisdom and experiences with the rest of us.

What I hope is that you will find their stories inspirational, uplifting, hopeful, surprising but most of all, that they will help you decide to make your life’s story just as inspirational. I hope it will give you the courage to try and grasp the things that seem hard and unreachable, to question some of your assumptions about your reality or the reality that the media portrays and just ponder, with an open mind, about their adventures and experiences.

And, the very first person that I have in mind to start the series with is Miss Rebecca Lawn, freelance journalist, passionate advocate for women’s issues, lover of writing, traveling, and the sea! :)

So, stay tuned! ;)

The interview that we have put together for you will be published tomorrow and I am so very excited and happy to share it with you!

Lots of love in the meantime,

Roxi